Anticipatory

Who’s ever heard of anticipatory meds? Not us, until yesterday.

Earlier in the week, following a couple of particularly difficult days and, worst of all, nights, I phoned the hospice for advice. As usual the duty nurse listened carefully to my list of concerns. She then asked a series of specific questions relating to Mags’ condition before reaching the conclusion that a medical review should be carried out with some urgency. She would arrange for a home visit from a GP for the next day. The hospice would then follow up with a home visit from a nurse today. 

The GP duly arrived a little after lunchtime the next day. He’s actually our GP’s registrar, so a trainee, to be accurate. He carried out his examination then told us that he had detected fluid on the left lung. He advised us to speak with the oncologist to discuss options when we see him next week. In the meantime our very personable but rather high speed registrar informed us that he would be prescribing “anticipatory meds” and making a referral to our local team of district nurses. 

Today the hospice nurse reassured us that “anticipatory meds” were administered by nurses either from the hospice or the local district team. This was just putting things in place for when they will be needed. So the promised support is gradually falling into place with the minimum of fuss. Someone, somewhere has a set of organisational skills that are oiled with dedication and delivered with compassion.

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  1. Vicki Lane12 June 2022 at 01:31

    You seem to have enviable support. I hope Mags can be kept comfortable. . .and that you are well.

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